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There is an interesting and sometimes unfortunate phenomenon that occurs in the lives of physicians that I think requires more study. It pertains to observations I have made over the last 20 years in my conversations with physicians who have committed themselves to very demanding practices.

I have noticed very busy physicians often find themselves challenged with someone in their own family, usually a spouse, who succumbs to some form of chronic illness (usually a mental illness). At first one might simply explain this away by saying that this can happen to anyone. Yes, that is true however it is my hypothesis that an epidemiological study of this phenomenon in the lives of physicians might reveal an incidence that is somewhat higher than in the general population.

After giving some thought to this I am concluding that physicians are at greater risk of this phenomenon occurring in their lives. I hope to explain why this should be.

It has been my experience that some physicians tend to, knowingly or unknowingly, draw to themselves individuals who are unconsciously looking to them for emotional rescue. It appears to be the nature of the profession for physicians to become, if they are not careful, lightening rods for drawing individuals with immature personality characteristics who are skilled enough in eliciting sympathy from them. Physicians who themselves are narcissistically invested in being able to rescue others are at greatest risk for such unfortunate occurrences.

Early on in a relationship, as in many relationships, the full form of the dysfunctionality that is to manifest remains dormant. Infatuation and romance often leaves a trail of naiveté that many only become aware of much later, if at all.

As the years move on and the physician becomes drawn increasingly into his/her practice this creates an increasing strain on the spousal relationship and more often than not, if it doesn’t end for this reason, the non-physician spouse will often develop some form of mental illness.

When relationships do end, ironically, this is often a sign of the mental health of the non-physician spouse in refusing to tolerate the ongoing absence of the physician spouse in the relationship.

When it doesn’t end however it’s almost as if the ill spouse is conveying a message to the physician spouse that more attention is needed from them. Although neither partner realized it consciously earlier on, it becomes clear that the main foundation for the relationship is based on the need of the ill spouse to be “cared for” by the physician spouse. This is the so-called “unconscious contract” that was made by the lovers.

As the ill spouse becomes progressively more ill this places increasing pressure on the physician spouse to “re-enter” the relationship and to care for the ill spouse. Whether this actually happens however often depends on two significant factors (although not the only two) a) the amount of guilt the physician spouse can tolerate in not responding to the ill spouse’s needs and b) the degree to which the physician spouse can tolerate feelings of intimacy.

What often happens is that the physician spouse begins to feel trapped in an untenable situation which only adds to the energy drain that they are experiencing.

Interestingly the energy drain is also driven by the narcissistic investment or “need” the physician has in “rescuing others”. Such a pattern is conditioned in early childhood when a child is left in the unfortunate position of having to care for an emotionally ill parent.

This sets up a need in the child to help the parent “survive” so that they themselves can ward off feeling their own inner feelings of sadness and annihilation that threaten to emerge. They then become conditioned with a fear of feeling sadness or emotional pain coming from within.

The fear becomes enacted through compulsive behaviors of rescuing those (i.e. one’s patients in later life) who evoke feelings of emotional pain in the growing child. Through the rescuing behavior the child is also hoping to evoke loving appreciation and security for themselves from the ill parent.

The rescuing pattern in the physician’s adult relationships (i.e. marital and patient relationships) simply repeats the relationship they had as a child with their ill parent.

The sad part about all of this is that the physician feels trapped “in” the rescuing pattern themselves. Trapped because they can’t tolerate the feelings of sadness they experience when others around them are ill, yet they can’t leave because their own emotional integrity depends on being able to help the other.

So many physicians caught under such a strain often are tormented with feelings of guilt about wanting to leave. Such guilt paralyzes them and undermines their health in serious ways.

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Among the many social traditions followed since time immemorial, the wedding is arguably the most prominent and unique one. The mere mention of the word “wedding” forces us to think of grandeur, excitement, new challenges and people, a special relationship and so on.

The term wedding is used to refer to the ceremony celebrated to mark the beginning of a marriage. It is either religious or civil. Whichever country it may be, the simple meaning of a wedding is that it marks the beginning of a new stage in life. Weddings require both the bride and the groom to meet new people and learn to live with them.

A wedding is celebrated in different ways in different parts of the world. For example, in the Western countries, the tradition of the bride wearing a white gown is common. Also, other customs like the wedding cake, wedding reception, etc. can be found in most Western weddings.

A wedding may be celebrated in an extravagant and pompous manner. Or, it can be a simple and brief ceremony. In some cases, the wedding reception is celebrated in a grander manner than the wedding itself. In the reception, the bride throws a bouquet to the crowd and the woman who catches it is supposed to be the next one to ring the bell.

On the lighter side, there are some funny aspects to weddings. To quote, “Before marriage, a man yearns for a woman. After marriage, the ‘y’ is silent.”

Through the ages, the original meaning of the term “wedding” has undergone changes to such an extent that the ceremonies and other rituals associated with it have lost their real significance.

Some say that a wedding is destiny. If we ponder upon this, the original meaning of a wedding can be understood. Destiny is something that cannot be predicted or avoided. The same holds true for weddings, too. It brings together, or in other words, creates a bond between a man and a woman, who once married, will become life-partners. A wedding kicks off this special relationship and the real challenge of a successful wedding is the transformation of two people into most compatible life-partners.

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Every bride and groom is into personalized vows. They want to have their little say about what love and marriage means to them - and they want the whole world to know. Some of these vows, dragged out of love-filled hearts, are a pleasure to listen to. Others, just dragged out, make painful listening. The profundity is somehow lost in the open air of a wedding day.

That a bride and groom might have difficulty in compiling a wedding vow is not to be wondered at. Much higher powers than they have lost a lot of sleep ensuring their appropriateness and completeness.

In times past, when a bride and groom were bound to each other as husband and wife merely by stating their intention, ‘I take you to be my husband,’ and ‘I take you to be my wife,’ pretty well said it all.

But, of course, with time and education, every bride and groom wanted their say.

So then it was, ‘I will be you wife, to love and to cherish and do all sort of things for you’.

Immediately, those who cared, detected a problem. Wasn’t ‘will’ a future verb? Didn’t its use tend to suggest that the woman would be the man’s wife at some future date, but not at the moment?

Sure, the future verb when used at a betrothal which, in those days, was as binding as the marriage itself, was good enough. But during the marriage ceremony the phrase to be used had to be a very define, present tense. In short, unless it was ‘I do take you as my husband’, it just might not end up being as legal as it was meant to be.

Needless to say, there was a lot of hair-splitting between those in favour of the future verb and those who insisted that only the present tense would do. Those for the future verb pointed out that a lot of other provisions had to be met to ensure the legality of a marriage. In effect, the vow was little more than trimming. Those for the present tense insisted that the vow was just as important, if not more so, than all the other requirements put together.

The war of the verbs continues to surface when legal minds get together on the subject of marriage. Couples are asked to consider very carefully how they structure their wedding vows. Well and good all that poetic staff that they want to overwhelm their partner with on the wedding day. Somewhere in the midst of all that fluff, however, there has to be a definite commitment to a legally binding union.

Vlady Peters is an Australian Civil Marriage Celebrant authorised to perform marriages in Australia. She also perform general ceremonies such as Baby Naming, Renewal of Vows and Commitment Ceremonies. To learn more about her as a celebrant and an author visit vlady at http://www.weddings-celebrant.com

One item that you may not think about but is really important to your reception: a great host. Just imagine, your guests arrive at your party but you’re rather busy attending to everyone. Your host or hostess for the night will need to get the party jumpstarted on your behalf and keep the party fun and flowing so that everyone, including yourself, enjoys the event.

You have the option to hire a professional to host your event. The great thing about this is that this gentleman or lady is very familiar with handling events and are used to dealing with crowds and strangers. If you give them a clear program to follow, they can liven up your party and help you make the transition between each activity smooth.

Of course, you may prefer to have a member of the family or your closest friend host the event for you. One advantage to this may be that he or she knows almost everyone at your wedding and can easily get them to participate. The disadvantage is that if they are nervous you’ll get a lot of dead air on the microphone and some garbled speech.

If you do go for a professional, check that you like their style. Ask if you can observe them at work if they are hosting another event. Check if you like their sense of humor as well. Keep in mind that you need someone who knows when the jokes are getting too risque or bawdy and are beginning to offend your guests.

You also don’t want to end up with someone who just wants to hit on your female guests. You’re looking for someone who can be both dignified, charming and an absolute source of excitement and control to face your family and friends on this important day.

It’s also very important that they dress appropriately, and speak articulately and eloquently on your behalf. After all, they are representing YOU for this major event

With 800 years of experience, there are few cities that can boast the atmosphere that Riga offers for stag parties. A vibrant, modern city with a special love of music, Riga offers a blend of adrenaline-raising activities and heart-pumping night life that make stag parties in Riga the sort that you’re still talking about years later. The Old Town in Riga boasts clubs, live music, DJs, casinos and bars that cover the spectrum from posh to dodgy. And if shopping is part of your agenda, Riga’s city market is the largest in the world.

Shopping on a stag weekend? Stag parties in Riga find some unusual things to do, and shopping is one of them. The City Market is housed under four enormous renovated zeppelin hangars, and is a great place to test your Stag’s mettle in the face of the local ’scenery’. It’s just a few minutes walk from Old Town Riga, where dozens of pubs and bars offer an excellent venue for a Riga stag parties pub crawl. If you’re not certain of the best watering holes in the city - and who’d expect a bunch of tourists out on a holiday stag jaunt to know? - you can turn the planning over to a tour organizer that specialises in arranging activities for stag parties in Riga.

One Riga stag parties activity that you won’t find in many other cities is an afternoon of - bob-sledding. Hurtling down an icy bobsleigh track at speeds approaching blurring, with no brakes to slow your downward descent - is there a better metaphor for the journey your mate is about to embark than that? Other daytime activities for stag parties in Riga include paintball, quad biking, off road karting and… wait for it.. bungee jumping! Let your stag literally take the plunge before he jumps off the cliffs into married life, eh?

Stag parties in Riga really hit their stride in the evenings, though, with dozens of clubs and music venues that offer a taste of every entertainment imaginable. Hit the nightclubs with a guide, or rent out a limousine for a bangup start to your night with a lapdance limo ride. If you make your arrangements in advance, you can end up your pub crawl in one of Riga’s lap dancing and strip clubs for a night of ogling the best girl flesh that Eastern Europe has to offer.

Bobsleighing in Riga is just one example of a fun stag parties activity that a professional tour operator can help you arrange. If you’re looking for more unique ideas for stag parties in Riga or any other city, contact Chillisauce, a tour operator that specialises in unique and unusual stag nights, bachelor parties and stag weekends.

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specialising in unique and unusual stag weekends and stag parties to UK and
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Marriage is one of the oldest customs known to us. It is difficult to answer about why a couple would like to marry, if they can live together even otherwise. But marriages are considered a proper union world wide in most of the cultures and religions.

If one looks at a married couple, one can plot a graph of happiness in marriage and the years of married life. With most of the couples, one may find that the happiness decreases as the years pass. There may be many reasons for this, and every study will bring out newer results. Let us think about how a married couple can have a marriage of hearts that will have happiness forever like we find in fiction books.

How does one define marriage of hearts? One way of saying would be that both the partners are very emotionally attached to each other. They care not for themselves, but for their partner. Their thoughts become one, their views become one and they live with each other in all the senses. There are no compromises. Look around yourself and you will find the neighborhood full of marriages where compromise is a way of life. What true joy can a marriage full of compromises can give?

True togetherness comes with the marriage of hearts. How to make one’s marriage a marriage of hearts? The first step should be absolute openness about everything. To begin with tell your partner about everything that you feel about him/her and about yourself. All of us do self talk. Isn’t. We talk to ourselves. During this kind of talk, we are very open, because we don’t worry about the reactions. Let your talk with your partner become something like self talk. Openness gives two benefits. One - your partner knows very precisely about your views, your likes and your dislikes. So there is no tension to think about what is going on in other’s mind. The second benefit is faith. When you tell everything very openly, you are sending the message of faith. I have full faith in you. I feel totally open with you. I want to hide nothing from you.

How to react to your partner’s openness? Once your partner begins telling everything very openly, you will get many shocks. You never knew that he/she was thinking like this for this issue! What to do? First - appreciate the openness. If you are shocked with few thoughts, put yourself in his/her shoes in find out if you also don’t have opinions that may shock the other party? One always think of two issues. Who is the person who is holding the views that I don’t like and are the views more important or the person. Also, am I always the best judge of vies. Who am I to say what is right and what is wrong? I myself change my opinions from time to time.

With the openness of thoughts, there will be no possibility of any conflict about suppressing your personality to keep the marriage alive. As both of you open up, dialogs will improve in quality. And slowly both of you will begin understanding each other very well. As you come to know more about the true thoughts of your spouse, you will make efforts to see that he/she is not hurt by you unknowingly.

Respect the other person and his/her views and desires at all the times. If you feel bad about anything, tell. Don’t suppress. Let the other partner know that you want her/him to change in certain areas. Request for change. In most of the relationships, people are unaware of the thoughts of their partner for a very long time. Both the parties suppress themselves to continue the facade of sharing and love. Such marriages may outwardly look successful, but give no happiness in life. Happiness and marriage of hearts comes only with openness and confidence about the relationship.

Talk this out with your spouse and if you feel that you should become more open with each other and proceed towards true sharing in every sense, please do. One compromises in every relationship in life. Should marriage also be one such relationship?

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So you’ve set a date with the man of your dreams? The only thing, well one of the many things, you have to do to get ready is choose the perfect dress. If you want help with that, you’re reading the wrong article. This advice is to keep you from choosing the WRONG wedding dress. Below are practical ideas to keep you from making a very expensive mistake (no, I’m not talking about your fiance).

1. It’s gotta fit. This might seem obvious to you, but many brides swear they are a size six and cram their bodies into dresses much too small for them. This unflattering approach to wedding dress shopping can make for bad pictures, not to mention discomfort on your big day.

2. Style is a must. Not every woman has the desire to be current with wedding dress fashions, but there are some definite no-nos. Stay away from halters, giant puffy sleeves, and mermaid style skirts (tight around the hips and knees and flared at the ankles). Also avoid any dress that you saw in a wedding more than 5 years ago.

3. Consider the setting. Don’t choose a dress for a different wedding, even if it’s been your dream since you were a little girl. Long sleeved dresses should NOT be worn at an outdoor wedding in August. (I knew a bride once who did this and put a ziploc bag of ice down the back of her dress) Conversely, don’t choose a sleeveless dress for an outdoor reception in November. (Again, the bride who did this turned into the Wicked Witch of the West during pictures) Lastly, and this is a little known fact, don’t wear lots of tulle for an outdoor event. This one I learned personally. The fabric attracts bees like crazy. I had those flying pests in between all 12 layers of my tulle skirt.

4. Love it. Don’t buy a dress that you don’t absolutely love. You only get one chance to have your perfect day. Choosing the cheapest, or the most sensible, or even the one that your best friend likes the most will not cut it for your wedding. If you don’t love it, leave it.

Hopefully this advice will keep you from making a mistake when it comes to your wedding dress. This is one of the only elements of planning a wedding that is almost entirely in your control. You may order flowers that come in silk instead of fresh. Perhaps your invitations spell your parents names “Joan and Jill.” Maybe your caterer had a death in the family. Well, you won’t have all of these things happen. At least, probably not. But, at least you will have not picked a bad dress.

I’m glad you read this because when you look back after a few years, you will remember nothing except your sheer joy, and your pictures will remind you of many wonderful moments in your beautiful wedding dress. Jessica Deets writes articles of interest for the general public. The website at http://www.BeautifulWeddingDresses.com has more information and news about wedding dresses.

The following paragraphs summarize the work of wedding experts who are completely familiar with all the aspects of wedding. Heed their advice to avoid any wedding surprises.

Feelings of anxiety and concern are completely normal prior to a wedding. One or both members of the couple may experience the cold feet phenomenon that overshadows them and causes them to become concerned over their upcoming wedding. Usually this feeling is not a cause for concern and it passes naturally on its own as your realize that you are more excited than anxious but the following are a few tips for helping to work through your cold feet issues.

The first tip for dealing with cold feet is simply to relax and realize that this happens to a lot of people in your situation. This is important because many people will get caught up in believing that these feelings mean that they shouldn’t go through with their wedding. Realizing that your feelings are completely naturally will help to waylay these fears.

After you calm down, get out a piece of paper and pen and just start listing all of your anxiety. This is particular helpful because you may have a great deal of trouble doing this which is significant because it helps you to realize that you don’t really have anything to worry about. The other scenario is that you may find that you have a long list of fears and may be amused to find that none of them are really logical. Sometimes seeing your concerns listed on paper helps to alleviate them.

Another tip for dealing with cold feet is to talk to your partner about your feelings. Many people are hesitant to this because they are embarrassed about their feelings but talking to your loved one can really help in this situation. Chances are that they know you better than anyone and can assist you working through these things. They may even confess similar feelings which helps you to realize that cold feet are completely natural.

If you feel that talking to your partner will further exacerbate the problem consider talking to a close friend instead. Just talking about your anxiety can help to relieve the tension. Once you verbalize your fears you are likely to find that they begin to dissipate and you start to relax and look forward to your upcoming wedding.

Another tip for dealing with cold feet is to talk to a friend who has recently married to get their perspective on married life. They will be able to tell you how well things are going for them which should ease your fears about the transition to married life. They will also be able to assure you that they had similar feelings of anxiety and that there is no cause for concern.

If you base what you do on inaccurate information, you might be unpleasantly surprised by the consequences. Make sure you get the whole wedding story from informed sources.

Making two lists; one of your fears and one of your reasons for marrying your partner, can help to alleviate cold feet. Once you make this list you will most likely see that the reasons that you want to get married far outweigh your fears. Sometimes just seeing this on paper is very beneficial to eliminating cold feet.

Writing a love letter to your partner can be another way to combat the feelings of cold feet. This process gives you a chance to ponder all the reasons why you love your partner. Expressing your feelings in a love letter can refocus your attention on what you love most about your partner and make you realize that the small things you are worrying about are really inconsequential.

Going through old photos of you and your partner can also help to ease the anxiety of cold fit. Looking through pictures from your courtship is a great way to remind you of all the fun times you and your partner have had together and will help you realize that there are still lots of fun times together in store for the two of you.

Spending some time away from the planning process is another way to help alleviate cold feet. Wedding anxiety is often spurred on by other problems such as the stresses of the wedding planning. This stress can put you on edge and make problems seem bigger than they really are. Take a trip to spa or spend an afternoon participating in an activity you enjoy to take your mind off of all the details that are still remaining for a little while.

Finally, if after examining the reason for your cold feet, you come to realize that there are serious issues at hand it is advisable to postpone the wedding until these issues can be resolved. If your concerns are valid and your relationship is potentially harmful either physically or emotionally you may need to seek professional help. Issues such as abuse, addiction and betrayal can be reasons to cancel a wedding and discontinue the relationship.

Cold feet of feelings of anxiety over your impending wedding are perfectly normal. Many brides and grooms have these feelings and in most cases they are completely harmless. It is, however, important to trust your instincts and if there is something seriously wrong with your relationship, it may be wise to cancel the wedding. As your knowledge about weddings continues to grow, you will begin to see how wedding fits into the overall scheme of things. Knowing how something relates to the rest of the world is important too.

There are so many different types of flowers to choose from that it may be difficult to choose which ones to have in bridal bouquets. You may be swayed by color or fragrance but if you are looking for a bit more of an unusual source of inspiration you might consider the meanings of some of the most common flowers used in bridal bouquets. Here are a few to get you thinking:

Think creatively and add a personal touch to your special event with do-it-yourself wedding invitations. When your friends inquire about the invitation designer, you can proudly say you did them yourself, just don’t tell them it was easy.

With the availability of home computers and the ease of downloading templates, fonts, and special wedding clipart, the budgeting couple has everything needed to complete the do-it-yourself wedding invitations project. What’s not accessible online is easily found in stationery and art supply stores.

Selecting the decorative paper to make your own wedding invitations is the first step. This sounds simple, but there are a lot of options from classic ivory and white to floral or tropical, depending on whether the wedding is formal or casual.

Once the paper is chosen you can really get creative with fonts, clip art, borders, photos and even your own artistic hand-painted touches, but invitation designers recommend you keep focused on a tasteful basic as you ponder the possibilities of what to incorporate.

Either do-it-yourself or find a friend who’s comfortable using a small paint brush and a glue gun and the options are endless. To create a striking border on your wedding invitations you can use watercolor paints around the edge even blending two colors together.

A simple ribbon, dried flower, or small shell glued on the invitation will give it the feel of being lovingly handmade and using a photograph makes it a memorable keepsake. Too much, however, is not complimentary to the beauty of wedding invitations.

When in doubt or in need of advice on everything from the right RGB (red/green/blue) combination to print silver or gold lettering to using wax seals, consult wedding Message Boards on the internet. Although a few vendors are logging on to encourage you to use their service, there is an abundance of information and answers from those with first-hand experience.

Remember, do-it-yourself wedding invitations can be a lovely addition to your wedding plans, as well as fun and easy on your budget.

Wedding Invitations Info provides information on cheap, unique, and do-it-yourself wedding invitations, plus wedding shower invitations, and advice on wedding invitation wording. Wedding Invitations Info is the sister site of Wedding Favors Web.